incest: "sex" with relatives

cousins... touching... just playing... uncles... little sisters... you wanted to see it... everybody knew... nobody knew... you love your daddy... kissing... it happened once... playing doctor... sleep-overs... it felt good... it hurt... auntie... you didn't wanna do it... you told everybody... no one listened... mommy's friend... you thought everybody did it... little brothers... you're scared... playing house... you told no one... you wanted to kill yourself... half-cousins... he just laid between your legs... you cried... it was fun... when you told someone you got beat for lying... you put it in your mouth... step-fathers... its your fault... you ran away... foster parents... you just laid there... you felt grown... you didnt know it was wrong... you screamed... daughters... you wanted to do "the grown-up"... he forced you... you felt ugly... you begged for it to stop... it happened for years... you felt alone... you blocked it out... your mother knew and did nothing... shame... big brothers... you looked forward to it... you felt powerless... you felt sexy... it happened when you was sleep... scarred... sons... it's a secret... you seduced them... you wished they die... you done it to others... conflicted... it was more of them... no one went to jail... they threatened you... big sisters... you fought back... he touched your breast... guilt... you just stood there naked... they put things in your body that didn't belong... enraged... you prayed... you hated going home... it was just a game... it's part of growing up?

incest involving children is child abuse.

too many of our families impose this incorrect form of sexual (abuse) education on our young... too many family secrets, too many excuses and passes for corrupting and interrupting our childrens lives -- this behavior must stop!

open communication between adults regarding their childhood is very important if you're sharing space with children, too many victims become victimizers and knowledge of someone's history can help break the cycle. the victimizer has to have access to carry out the deed, so we must prevent this access as a precaution.

proper supervision of the young when they're off playing in the other room or out of sight. also, playing with the young more, to help promote an example of having healthy fun.

provide the young with correct information about their bodies and environment.

we are all in need of healing and this must be understood between those responsible for childcare... so the more adults at a time responsible for the care of the young the better, if no one is left alone with the young (access reduced) then it decreases the chances of a violation...

it takes a healthy village to raise a healthy child

build community.

BlackLove.

*contributed by osaze okera @ www.myspace.com/thinkblackinstitute